1. She’s amazing in bed! She is comfortable with her body and good at communicating her wants and needs. Plus, she has experience. For mind-blowing sex, a woman in her 30s may be your best bet.

2. She is confident. Confidence is sexy! She’s learned that she’s great just the way she is and has let go of insecurities she may have had when she was younger. She won’t need constant reassuring that those jeans don’t make her look fat. She knows they look fantastic.

3. She has polish and poise. She is put together and can handle social situations with ease. You will be proud to have her at your side.

4. She doesn’t want to go any parties where there will be keg stands of any kind. Been there, done that, no desire to do it again.

5. She has more control over her schedule. By now, she is making her mark in her chosen career. She has real responsibilities and might need to put in long hours, but she’s no longer the lowest person on the totem pole at her job, so she’ll find it easier to make time for you and stick to plans.

6. She doesn’t freak out over every little thing. At this point, she knows the difference between a true emergency and a minor inconvenience. She’s not going to call you and go on a tirade for an hour because you unwittingly scheduled an important meeting for the same time as her best friend’s engagement party. She won’t ruin dinner by talking nonstop about an annoying coworker. If she is upset, it is for a good reason and you need to pay attention.

7. She knows how to have fun. She’s learned not to take herself too seriously and knows that it’s important to enjoy yourself. She’ll bring out her playful side and help you relax when you’re stressed out.

8. She doesn’t play games. She knows who she is, what she wants, and how to communicate effectively.

9. And she’s not going to deal with your games either. She will see straight through you. She has seen it all by now and will not put up with bad behavior. Anyone looking to play games should move on to someone more gullible.

10. If she’s dating you, it’s because she sees something special in you. She isn’t going to waste her time dating someone just because he or she is there. By now, she knows what she is looking for and who she is likely to be compatible with. She’s not going to date anyone just because she sees a glimmer of potential or because they talk about what they might do “some day.

11. She won’t keep you waiting for the bathroom (or not as long as she would she have in her 20s, anyway). By now, she has her makeup and hair routine down to a streamlined process that she could do in her sleep.

12. She doesn’t have time for drama. And she won’t create it. It’s not that she’ll never get upset about anything, but she’s not going to text you 20 times in a row or show up at your door with mascara streaming down her face. She has more important things to do.

13. She is talented! So talented! She’s spent time honing her skills, and on dates, she’ll impress you with her ability to whip up a perfect flourless chocolate cake, scout out a bar with the best mojitos, or dance like Beyoncé.

14. She’s no longer a fashion victim. She knows what works for her body and has developed her own personal style. Her wardrobe will have high-quality classic staples that fit her well. She won’t show up in an unflattering shade of orange just because it’s trendy this week or buy shoes a half size too small because they were on sale.

15. She knows who her real friends are by now. She’s so over frenemies. The friends she has now will probably be around forever, so anyone dating her should get on their good side.

16. She might be open to dating younger guys. Lucky them! (See no. 1: She’s amaaazing in bed!) By the time a woman is in her 30s, there’s a decent supply of guys a few years younger who have their act together and make great boyfriends.

17. But she doesn’t want to be your mom. Or your personal assistant. She’s nurturing, capable, and organized, and will probably bring you chicken soup when you’re sick, but she’s not looking to take care of a whiny man-child.

18. She doesn’t spend every second staring at her biological clock. So relax. She might want to get married and have children, but that doesn’t mean she’s desperate. She has a full life and is only going to settle down with someone as awesome as she is.

19. She takes care of herself. She doesn’t sleep with her contacts in or roll out of bed with a hangover on Friday mornings. She doesn’t live on ramen and coffee anymore either. She knows she’s at her best when she’s eating and sleeping well and getting some exercise.

20. She won’t try to change you. She knows that people rarely change and isn’t going to wait around or nag you, hoping you’ll turn into someone else. Just don’t leave the toilet seat up. That’s never OK.