The blog has gone viral on Tumblr within weeks as ladies describe what they want openly and often in graphic fashion
A new blog seeks to empower women by allowing them to write anonymously about their sexual experiences, needs and desires.
'How to Make Me Come' has gone viral on Tumblr within weeks as ladies describe what they want openly and often in graphic fashion.
It was set up by a 27-year-old writer who goes by the nom de plume Sylvia following an unsatisfying experience of her own.
“Suffice to say, it was not the greatest experience either physically or emotionally," she told The Times.
"I felt like he misunderstood what I was going through sexually and I was unable to talk about it in the moment."
A lack of communication seems to be a common theme throughout the entries, with women frustrated at their inability to discuss sex and orgasms openly with their partners - whether they are a one-night stand or partner for life.
Sylvia points out the women want to please, not hurt their partner's feelings or end up nervous and awkward with someone you don't know that well.
But after discussing her own bad experience with a friend, where they talked about all their sexual experiences, she realised that opening up was key.
“We’d never discussed sex in so much detail and so honestly. At the end I felt very charged up about it and thought that I needed to give this feeling to other women...
"It became obvious very quickly that women are itching to talk about all this.”
Introducing the blog, she writes: “Imagine you could talk to a past or future sexual partner, free of judgment or repercussion. What would you want them to know?”
It continues: "The female orgasm can sometimes be challenging to achieve and/or talk about, but it goes beyond that.
"When we talk about female orgasm, something deeper is at play — for one, the societal assessment and conversation of female sexuality; the consequences of which bleed into the areas of our lives far outside the bedroom.
"We wanted to start a dialogue about how women achieve sexual pleasure; something that is often ignored, devalued, or misunderstood.
However more than half of its readers are male - proof that men are taking notice.
Sylvia told The Times that many of the stories contradict one another, which shows the importance of women communicating their personal sexual preferences to the person they are sharing their body with.
"Whether it’s a one-night stand or a serious long-term relationship, we all have to admit that we can’t read our partners’ minds and they can’t read ours," she adds.
"We need to speak up.”
She believes that women also want to feel safe so they can experience "letting go and experiencing true pleasure".
